In a world where all you typically see are the selective, filtered, best-of, Instagram-worthy moments of someone's life, I'm going to be very real with you today. This is not your typical rah-rah, "you-can-do-it," inspirational blog. Rather, this is a taste of real life. I've coached many clients through tough times like this with this same method, and I thought it would be helpful to know that sometimes (often even!) I take a dose of my own medicine. If you can't already relate to these emotions and words, chances are some day you will. So, hopefully this helps guide you when you need it most.
Saturday was supposed to be our wedding day.
But this COVID drama stole that from us.
So instead of boarding a plane for our honeymoon, we are hiding away in nature for some healing.
These past 7 months have been some of the most stressful, pain-ridden moments in my life (and I'm guessing I'm not the only one):
I'd love to tell you that despite all this, I've stayed positive, made lemonade out of lemons, took a Pollyanna view of things, and found hope in platitudes like "It will all work out in the end."
But today's inspiration comes not from "winning out," "staying strong," or "overcoming"...but simply from the struggle itself. Sometimes all there is is the struggle. And that's okay.
When life hits you hard with wave after wave and you can barely come up for air, you can't think about anything but survival from one moment to the next. There are no thoughts about the future. No planning or goal setting. No dreams to be had. No sense of power over determining your course.
There's just the struggle - pure survival. And sometimes that's all we can deal with. Just make it to the end of the day. That's all. And even that can feel overwhelming. But by narrowing your focus to one baby step at a time, one minute at a time, you can make it.
In case you are in the struggle as well (or find yourself there at some point in your life), I hope you find comfort in the fact that it's okay to be there.
It's okay to stop. And heal. And survive.
I'm in the struggle right now. Somewhere deep inside I trust that I won't be here forever. But the struggle is all I can see and deal with in the moment. And that's okay. This is not a pity party. I'm not asking you to feel sorry for me. I just want you to know you are not alone should you find yourself in the struggle, too, just needing to survive.
PC: Sean Cook
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